My Thoughts On That


While Nikki and I were out the other day, we stopped by Taco Bell to take care of our son’s lunch request. What I observed while waiting got me thinking about the world I grew up in and the world now. Here is what I observed:

The place wasn’t very busy, I was the only one waiting for an order and there were a few people in there eating. I was in there for about 10 to 15 minutes, and watched five different people four of them in the same age range of late teens early 20s just standing around not talking to each other. Two of them were texting on their cell phones. Since then I have observed this behavior at other places of business.

My thoughts:

Has the abundance of cell phones, texting and social media at our finger tips changed the dynamic of what I call friendship circles. When I was in my teens I had school friends, work friends, and neighborhood friends. Some of these friends occupied multiple circles and some I only interacted with at school, work, or around the neighborhood. It seems that now people have a single circle of core friends and don’t need any others, because that core group is right at that their finger tips anytime they want to reach out.

What do you think? Weigh in, I’d love to read your opinions.


31 thoughts on “My Thoughts On That

  1. I’m not out and around the young people of the Smart Phone Generation much, so haven’t done much direct observation, but I suspect you are right. I notice that although I don’t do the smart phone text and tweet thing, my social media world does tend to unify some of my eclectic connections, such as people from very different and distant in time and space parts of my face-to-face life commenting on, and reacting to, the same Face Book posts along with some I know only in what my friend Lizzi calls the World Between The Wires. I think there are technology driven changes in social life that have only just begun and there is no predicting where it will take us.


  2. I absolutely agree. I have a teen son. He has friends from school and one in our neighborhood. Rarely do they actually get together but they play games together online and text occasionally. When we go out I always notice that there are table with multiple people of all ages sitting together and most of them are looking at their phones, hardly anyone talks anymore. Whether it’s a couple or a family or a bigger group, nearly everyone is on their phone. Things have most certainly changed. When I was a teenage girl, if my friends and I weren’t hogging the phone lines so we could talk for hours after school, we were together somewhere. We actually spoke words to each other. lol!
    I think it’s really kind of sad. Technology is great and I appreciate it, if not for technology I would not have met my bff, your lovely wife, but it is sad that human beings are now so involved in facebook, texting, that they don’t even speak to their husband, wife, children, friends, with real eye to eye contact. You know what annoys me? I have a bunch of nephews ranging in age 24 to 44 and I have actually seen them texting their wife who is sitting next to them on the sofa, or their brother who is four feet away in a chair or their uncle who just walked into the kitchen. WTH? lol!!!

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  3. It annoys the heck out of me when people don’t pay attention anymore as they’re walking around on the streets because it directly affects others around them. Not all the time, and depending on the situation, but it’s annoying when you’re trying to walk, and someone in front of you is blocking your way because they are on their phone and not paying attention. I wouldn’t mind if it were a once in a while type of thing, but this happens every time we’re out walking around. We observe this everywhere we go on our travels. We literally have seen people almost get run over by a car because they have their heads down staring at their phones. Also, this makes it so easy for someone to come up and rob you when you’re not paying attention, and we’ve heard stories of this. We also notice couples out at restaurants on their phones instead of talking to each other. I don’t care about this, but it’s pretty absurd to see it. All of this isn’t new to me because I come from a tech city and travel to a lot of cities as well. This slave-to-the-phone thing is becoming more and more ubiquitous, and I don’t see it getting any better.
    Boy, you found a pet peeve of mind here, so I had to vent!

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    1. I’m with you Angie. It happens at the grocery store all the time. Someone gets out their car, and gets on their phone as they walk across the parking lot. They just assume that everyone will see them and let them pass. I’m not a violent person, but I really feel that if I ran one of them over it would send a message to all the others.

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      1. Ha! I’ve imagined that too, that my car wouldn’t actually hurt them, but I could run into them and teach them a lesson! Btw, I’m sending you a pic over Instagram from a recent outing and it hits home with this topic. I think you’ll appreciate it.

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  4. While I’m sure there are exceptions, I’d be hesitant to call any of these connections true friends. There comes a point when technology needs to be secondary… or completely absent… and real human interaction comes first. You make real time for the people who matter.

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    1. I have witnessed some of the exceptions you referred to. I for one have made connections here on WordPress that I would consider true friends. I’ll agree that some one who consistently likes your pictures on Instagram or retweets you, is a pretty thin definition of the word. Technology based friendships require the same nurturing, time and attention as a face to face friendship.

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  5. For me personally there’s nothing better than real friendships, face to face, hugs with arms open wide and enjoying friendships that I’ve made years ago. However, having said that, there’s no denying the power and attraction of the Internet. Otherwise I never would have started blogging and met so many awesome people from across the world, like you and Nikki. 🙂

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  6. Absolutely. I agree, but as an introverted soul I use my phone so I don’t have to make eye contact with out her people unless I’m comfortable. It’s my safety blanket. Before my phone I would carry a book, same premise but I think the book made me look more intelligent 🤓

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  7. I can see how this could become a prevalent thing. I only speak from my own experience with my teens, who are on their phones quite a bit when they are home. However, the oldest is usually hanging with friends, working on cars and doing other outside things. The middle is not on social media (with the exception of snap chatting his friends, not posting stories) of his own choice and in good weather is often found skateboarding with said friends (phones on benches as to not break them). The 13 year old is extremely active with soccer, but does like to keep her snapchat streaks up (I do find she and the girls around her age spend more time on the phone than the 15-17 year old boys that I know).
    I have seen crowds of kids in a room all on their phones when I’ve been out certain places.

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  8. I’m okay with the convenience that social media provides us especially when it comes to keeping in touch with friends and family who are away… but I think if our friends are just infront of us or just blocks away from us, it would be great to communicate and socialize in a more personal and not technical manner where we see real reactions and emotions and even touch. It’s still different when you give the genuine hug and smile vs the virtual, u know what I mean? 😊

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  9. When you started I thought it was gonna be another “social media destroys us” post and I’m so loving what you wrote instead. This is exactly my experience – it brings me closer to amazing people who I wouldn’t have had the chance to meet before. Not to mention that as a shy introvert I find it easier to connect without the face-to-face pressure. Thank you for your thoughts, I’m glad Nikki shared your post 😉

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